By Mark Kincannon
I have several things that I pray, hope, and will work towards in 2013, but I feel pretty comfortable with this verse from Malachi 2 representing my most important goal.
Malachi 2:15-“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.” (NLT)
This verse is written within a passage with larger implications, but it is simple enough to remind us of what we as men should be majorly focused on.
A rhetorical question is asked, “Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife?” Then another question is asked, “And what does he want?” In other words what does God want from us as the men, as the one with God-given responsibility to lead our family?
Does he want more money in the 401K or the bank account? Does he want us to earn a promotion in our career? Does he want us to expand our business? Does he want us to kill a bigger deer, or lower our handicap? Does he want us to make sure our kids make that travel baseball squad? Does he want us to make sure our kids get good grades or make a high ACT score? Does he want us to make sure our kids experience the vacations we wished we would have experienced? What is his answer?
God’s answer is pretty simple. He wants godly children to come from our marriage. If our relationship with God isn’t healthy our relationship with our spouse won’t be healthy and if that happens it’s difficult to raise godly children. Therefore God tells us to guard our hearts. We need to keep our hearts from falling in love with things that aren’t going to bring lasting satisfaction. Things like money, power, and sexual immorality. We have to set up boundaries in our life to make sure we are protecting our hearts.
When we protect our hearts we protect our relationship with our wife, in turn we will remain loyal to our wife. When we protect this relationship we protect our kids. This gives us the best chance to raise the type kids God desires. This is a great reminder of what God wants our kids to be. He doesn’t desire the smartest or the most athletic kids, he wants godly kids.
So here is my priority this year. Inspired by a writing that is thousands of years old. Guard my heart, remain loyal to my wife, and raise godly children. All of the other goals will submit to this.